November 2011
4 posts
Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors including physical, sexual, and emotional abuse used to gain control over another
Domestic violence affects 1 in 4 women, regardless of ethnicity, race, age, ability, class, religion, or sexual orientation
Every 15 seconds a person is battered
—First Step brochure
Having to See Your Abuser
yousetyourlimits:
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse, rape, or sexual assault often have to see their abusers after their attacks. Sexual violence is frequently committed by people we know—within our family, school, work, church, or any other community environment. However we know our abusers, we cannot always avoid interacting with them.
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July 2011
1 post
The Grief Process (Turning Points for Growth)
1. Shock and Protest: disbelief, denial, anger, guilt numbness, yearning
crying, searching for why, somatic symptoms (weight loss, muscle weakness, changes in appetite, tightness in chest), preoccupation with thoughts of deceased or loss
2. Disorganization and Intense Grief: despair, apathy, depression, social isolation, self-doubt, loneliness, meaninglessness
restlessness, decreased memory and...
June 2011
0 posts
“Rape is not about sex — it is an act of power over another human being, a...”
– The Tyee (via opendaylight)
Assertive Rights
1. You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, emotions, and to take responsibility for consequences.
2. You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for your behavior or feelings.
3. You have the right to change your mind.
4. You have the right to say “I don’t know”
5. You have to right to identify and accomplish your goals without explanation.
6. You have...
May 2011
6 posts
Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
6. Remember, people go to laundry to do...
who is to blame? →
April 2011
7 posts
Is Rape Funny? →
A Helpful Resource.
The National Sexual Assault Online Hotline
You can find it HERE.
How does it work? It works just like instant messaging. You’ll go into a private session with a trained volunteer and communicate, live, by typing messages back and forth. The service is completely anonymous, and you do not have to give your name or any personal information.
“Look, guys, no matter what a girl does, no matter how she’s dressed, no matter...”
– Joe Biden, Federal Effort Targets Sexual Assault at Colleges
“Talking about the experience is not an exorcism: the goal of retelling is to integrate the experience into one’s life, not to be purged of it. The same studies showing that disclosure, especially disclosure with emotional expression, reduces intrusive and avoidance symptoms indicate that disclosure has to occur more than once. Although no fixed number has been identified, it is the repeated...
February 2011
24 posts
What is Psychological Abuse?
There are not “degrees” of abuse, domestic violence, or rape. Regardless of what lawmakers would have you believe, we don’t need to redefine any of those instances. If you’re being abused or are in an abusive relationship, there are people who will help you. If you think you might be in an abusive relationship, here are some things you can review that will help you determine if you need help. ...
http://www.endrape.msu.edu/ →
MSU’s Counseling Center, Sexual Assault Program.
24-hour Hotline : 517-372-6666
Myths & Facts regarding Male Victimization
Myth #1 - Boys and men can’t be victims.
This myth, instilled through masculine gender socialization and sometimes referred to as the “macho image,” declares that males, even young boys, are not supposed to be victims or even vulnerable. We learn very early that males should be able to protect themselves. In truth, boys are children - weaker and more vulnerable than their...
Do listen,
Do say ‘I’m glad you’re alive
Do say ‘I’m sorry this has happened
Do say, ‘It’s not your fault’
Do say, ‘You did the best you could to survive.’
Do say, ‘I’m here for you’
Do ask the survivor’s permission when you want to provide physical comfort.
Do provide information and options about resources.
Do realize that sexual assault affects survivors in many ways and that almost...
There is happiness & there is sorrow: Sexual... →
daniellekiemel:
Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior. 2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone! 3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them! 4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited. 5. If you are in an elevator and someone...
What is Consent ?
Consent is a voluntary, sober, imaginative, enthusiastic, creative, wanted, informed, mutual, honest, and verbal agreement
Consent is an active agreement: Consent cannot be coerced
Consent is a process, which must be asked for every step of the way; if you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, just ask
Consent is never implied and cannot be assumed, even in the context of a...
Watchtony porter. ‘a call to men’
What a survivor might feel:
· anger: at the assailant(s) or herself/ himself for not escaping the situation
· powerlessness: loss of control over one’s life
· guilt: the feeling that she/he could have prevented the assault
· fear: of being blamed or assaulted again, people finding out, pregnancy, STI’s, all people, physical contact, being alone with others....
“I used to think that the estimate that one in six women are victims of rape or...”
– Anonymous (via weretelling)
“Let’s talk about rape for a moment. Rape is not what George Lucas did to your...”
– Jeffrey Rowland
myths and facts about rape
Myth: Rape is caused by lust or uncontrollable sexual urges and the need for sexual gratification.
Fact: Rape is an act of physical violence and domination that is not motivated by sexual gratification.
Myth: Once a man gets sexually aroused, he can’t just stop.
Fact: Men do not physically need to have sex after becoming sexually excited. Moreover, they are still able to control themselves...
“Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how...”
– From Shakesville, on rape culture. (via weretelling)
Let the feelings go.: Rape is rape. The word is... →
leavethefeelings:
She kept calling it RAPE. That word pierces through me. Sexually assaulted just sounds nicer. I kept thinking to myself how I wanted her to stop using the word rape and use sexually assaulted instead because it sounded nicer. But then I started to wonder why I wanted to make a word that describes such a disgusting thing sound nicer. Why not let the word be a word that stings, a...
A Community Voice: skinmemories: What To Do When... →
skinmemories:
What To Do When Someone Approaches to Tell You About Sexual Assault or Abuse
Start with ‘This is terrible. I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you.’ Or some variation on this phrasing. It’s important to emphasize that you recognise this thing that you are being told about as a wrong. And that you recognise that this wrong happened to the person you are talking to.
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